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Demands you could not meet
Do you remember encountering situations with your partner that
you simply couldn’t handle? Perhaps you needed to hear your
partner’s reasonable criticism of you without getting defensive,
and you couldn’t. Or in a different situation you needed
to say no, and instead you gave in.
Maybe the situation made demands on both you and your partner
that neither of you could meet. Maybe you shared a problem and
needed to deal with it cooperatively but couldn’t. You had
no training in cooperation. You were unskilled.
It was obvious you had a problem – the situation had ended
badly, in angry argument or stony silence. But you didn’t
necessarily know what the problem was. Therefore, you couldn’t
solve it.
Success or failure – depends on
skills
Many couples flounder because they encounter situations that
they are not skilled enough to handle and turn to blaming each
other instead of figuring out what skills are going to make a
difference and learning them.
When our relationships get in trouble, it doesn’t occur
to most of us that the issue isn’t fault; it’s that
we are over our heads. Even when we do recognize the problem,
we may not necessarily be able to do anything about it. How often
do you see programs that really teach couple skills?
Our relationship coaching program does. It is all about learning
and practicing essential skills – and the attitudes that
go with them.
The program is designed for success. It reflects what I have learned
- over many years of working with couples – about, sadly,
the reasons that many couples fail to improve their relationships,
even when they want to - and about approaches that do bring success,
when people are willing to do the work.
This program could be for you
If you seriously want to change, if you want to become "relationship
competent" and recognize the importance of skills, if changing
is more important to you than complaining – this program
may well be for you. It -
- Is practical and fundamentally positive, focusing on what
will work rather than endless examination of past failures
- Is designed the way people really learn and change behavior
- Is built on a personal coach-to-individual or coach-to-couple
relationship, with a coach who is committed to your success
and will stick with you even if you are tempted to give up
- Is innovative, using online journals (blogs) and a supportive
Practice Community of coaching participants for learning
- Can be adapted to different budgets, levels of commitment
and time constraints
- Will be there for you when you need it in the ways that you
need it, as long as you need it – as your relationship
safety net.
Next – Relationship Coaching
Further reading – on relationship skills
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